Hello fellow philosophers. I hope that everyone is doing well. As for me, I have been feeling more and more like I am going off the deep end. Perhaps it is the extremely busy schedule and all of the commitments and responsibilities, work, school, Sigma, ALPFA, NABA, interviews, and oh lets not forget everyday life.
I have spoken with several other Sigma members who like me are pretty much feeling the same way. My advice is always the same, deal with it. This is life from now on. We will all have great and fabulous careers, and there will be a ton of other things that seem to pop up everyday. So my advice or should I say my saying is what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. The stresses we are going through now better prepares us for life after Baruch. Only then, some of these things we are doing now, wont be as necessary. For instance joining clubs to network to make contacts that may help land a job. Which reminds me, please don't do that. I mean by all means take advantage of the opportunities they have to offer, but joining should be about supporting and wanting to contribute to the organization's goals and mission. Okay, enough about that and back to my needing a break. I have decided to hand over my SigmaVPSpeaks baby to a fellow philosopher for this edition.
Nice Guys Finish Last
Has anyone ever thought why such an anomaly exists? Throughout our childhood, we are emphatically taught the virtues of being a compassionate and “nice” person. This principle is inseparable from the moralistic structure of our society. Being “nice” is analogous to “good”, right? However, when this maxim is applied to the art of courting women, our so-called maxim miserably falters. My question is why? Why do decent, authentic, and “nice” (there is that word again) gentlemen have a diminished appearance in front of the women they cherish? Why are these gentlemen passed over for the company of barbaric-minded animals whose thoughts are comprised of shameless sexual gratification? (Some women may allude to these creatures as “dogs”) Hopefully, this article can elucidate and answer some of the queries I have posted above. Before I start, I have to define what a nice guy is.
A nice guy is a male who possesses the demeanor, ambition and intentions befitting of a potential partner. He is well-mannered and courteous or at least he makes an effort to be. He has legitimate ambition—meaning he won’t contravene existing laws in order to ascertain this success. He doesn’t objectify women. This is a key contention. A nice guy likes a lady for who she is, not how she looks. He is more attracted to her conversations, her gesticulations, her interests, as opposed to the size of her bosoms, and buttocks. His intentions are of noble character. He cherishes a female for her intrinsic worth—not her depreciating external appearance. This is a very key distinction before I immerse myself in this discourse. Of course, many “dogs” can appear to have these qualities, but they are deceiving naïve and inexperienced women into bed with them.
I have researched and ruminated on this topic for quite awhile now. My conclusions aren’t universal (this means that Emmanuel Kant’s categorical imperative is invalidated), but they are general and can be applicable to most women. Before I delve any further, this is not a misogynistic rant, it’s a pragmatic and calculated examination of women.
Women have inherited Eve’s credulity and are therefore, tempted by forsaken objects. Everyone knows about Adam and Eve, the parable which established the Judeo-Christi-Islamic creationistic theory. Adam and Eve lived in blissful ignorance amongst the various animals in the Garden of Eden, and this excessive bliss was interrupted when a dastardly conniving snake tempted Eve to pick fruit out of the forbidden tree. We all know the rest. At least I hope we all do. But my contention lies in Eve’s naiveté and how she was exploited by a nefarious serpent---this mistake is consistently repeated when women foolishly choose men who are incapable of providing a stable home while coincidentally maintaining a monogamous relationship. These men are in abundance, but women still flock to them because they have delusions of grandeur. You cannot classify these men as “dogs”, because dogs are loyal,--these men are not. But is it their fault? Seriously, is it? They can’t help themselves. Their aggressive, sadistic, concupiscent behavior is a proven method. History is on their side. Women fail to choose men who have a genuine interest for their character, personality, and interests---because these men are “safe”. They aren’t the forbidden fruit. Women desire to play with serpents, while repudiating the consequences of their poisonous bite. It’s a sad and pathetic fact, but it cannot be emphasized enough. This is why some of the most beautiful women are often impregnated by the age of 20, and are abandoned by their “one true love”. Women do not have the same luxuries as men; men can have promiscuous escapades and their futures will remain unblemished, as opposed to females, who can become impregnated and therefore have their once-prominent futures debunked. But again, some women might plead for abortion, but the emotional, psychological and physical consequences of such a procedure isn’t too pretty either. Unless women have the audacity to confront their lust for incompatible and wildly promiscuous men, they will consistently lament on how “all men are dogs”.
A gentlemen’s politeness is mistaken for lack of confidence. Most women adore confident men. They adore men who can actuate, invigorate, and dominate. They are constantly left in awe of these men. However, confidence is a few notches below arrogance/cockiness, and is a very subjective attribute. Who is to say that the guy who barely spoke a word in the hangout isn’t confident about himself? Confidence is relative, and cockiness is often confused for confidence. Many authentic men are confident in their own right; they have proper mannerisms and are reserved in their courtship of a female. But this is a product of good upbringing—it doesn’t display a lack of confidence. Women want men in power, and cocky individuals who are loquacious and full of themselves seem to attract them the most because they appear to be in control. These men know what superficial women want, and they will play their cards according to their past experiences with women. They have a very high success rate as well. It’s very tough for a gentleman to be shrugged off by a female because he does not encapsulate her vision of a “confident male” because he isn’t aggressive enough.
Women are as shallow as men. Men are shallow, and rely on superficial beauty as a barometer to scrutinize women. Women do the same with men. But men admit their superficial shortcomings, women try to conceal it. Every time a nice guy is rejected, it is either “I only see you as a friend” or “you are not my type”. These two rejections expose the superficial shortcomings of women as well. Women would rather mortgage their future on the promiscuous guy who is two inches taller and has a nice six pack as opposed to the committed guy who authentically likes them, and can provide them with a prominent future. They will shamelessly flaunt their “goods” in an attempt to lure salivating males into their lair---this consequentially leads to one night stands and/or unwanted pregnancies, so go figure. Most women are indifferent to personality; it doesn’t matter to them, regardless of what they say. Prominent physical features combined with a decent personality are ideal, but if one had to be sacrificed, it would be personality. AGAIN THE NICE GUY WILL FINISH LAST. Can you sense the nauseating recurrence of this theme? Another attribute which women flock around is wealth. Wealth translates into power and respect. It’s a universal axiom. It’s tested and proven. Women want to feel secure, and might be inclined to perform oral fellatios on the most affluent male they know—just so they can give them a “taste” of what they can expect. This is why famous males are never lacking when it comes to groupies. Obviously, this self-degradation does not apply to most females, but there is a sizeable minority who are very compliant prostituting themselves to richer men just for the sheer thrill of it. To these famous entertainers, it was a cheap and probably regrettable fuck. To the females, it was an undeniably vivid experience (that is an understatement). Talk about a variation in perspective, right?
Women tend to be self-centered and cruel. That is why men behave like dogs. I cannot reproach men for their promiscuity (even though I have throughout this essay). Most men who develop an insatiable commitment to promiscuity do so because of past experiences. These “dogs” were in actuality, gentlemen i.e. nice guys. That is, they were committal and possessed righteous intentions towards a girl, only to find out that those feelings were never going to be reciprocated. It’s a shattering feeling—and most men recover from it by becoming psychopathic, at least subconsciously. They endeavor to forget about their past attempts at love by initiating sexual relationships with other females. But they do so with discretion. That means, they aren’t committal and they are unemotional. It’s merely a sexual escapade to them. That is why they roam clubs like wayward animals, because these short-term relationships (more aptly labeled fuck-buddy relationships) are transient and unfulfilling. They constantly need to alternate from girl-to-girl, because this sort of activity provides an escape route. It allows them to forget. Cross that, it coerces them to forget. Simply put, men are dogs because women force them to be dogs. This is a cyclical pattern and can function both ways.. Now, there are men who never went through this heart-break phase. They have uncontrollable sexual urges and they believe that it can only be addressed by a multitude of women. These men seduce genuinely kind-hearted females only to desecrate their purity and rupture their bonds of trust. These women then become cruel and self-centered. Yes. That is one explanation. But many women are cruel and self-centered because it is in their nature. It’s as simple as that.
In conclusion, nice guys do finish last. They never get to reel in the girl of their dreams, while their counterparts, the not-so-nice-guys perform debaucheries every weekend with attractive women. There isn’t any incentive in being a nice and decent guy. There just isn’t. Yes, you can appear to be a nice guy—but appearance and reality are usually divergent and contradict each other. Smarter females can distinguish between the genuine and artificial types. Again, I am not trying to provide a discourse predicated on misogyny, but this consistent pattern has always befuddled me. I am only trying to sort out some explanation for it. Why is this world so confusing? When you try to do the right thing, you actually end up losing. The End.
I hope that everyone has enjoyed Hosni's article. Before I go, I would however like to share my views on the topic. The argument Hosni raised is not a new one and will not go away any time soon. The problem with men and women who feel this way is that they always want the wrong person. Just like women, men never want that woman who is right there making herself available to you. Oh no, you want that women you think is more ideal for you, (for whatever reason, aesthetic or otherwise), rather than giving that other person a chance. Futhermore, It is not about deception, it is about connecting with someone who interest you. It just so happens that the squeaky wheel gets the oil. Meaning, the person who makes the most noise gets the most attention. Human Nature dictates this. When we here noise we turn. Why? Interest. And since Hosni made referrence to Kant, I will make reference to Plato who tells of a story where a man on a road discovers an awful sight but could not refuse himself from looking directly at it. Why? Human Nature. We are interested in things that attract our attention and are fueled by the unknown. I.E. in Plato's case, how did that awful object get there, in this case, what makes that person so confident or whats that person all about. If you are the quiet and polite shy type than be an interesting quiet and polite shy type. Attract attention. Be noticed. Be of interest to those you want interested in you.
And now this fellow philosophers brings this cummunicado to an end. We hope that you have heard the messages and lessons that we have intended to include in this writing. As philosophers like us and explorers seeking knowledge we are sure that there is something for everyone. And if not, maybe next time. Until then………………………..Carpe Diem
